How to Make Bullying Stop
Everyone can work together and follow these steps to make bullying stop.
Talk to an Adult
If you or someone you know is being bullied, talk to a responsible adult right away. This person could be your parent or another relative, a teacher, principal or other school staff member.
Listen and Take Action
Adults are accountable, too – they must make sure bullying is reported and action is taken so the problem doesn’t get worse. School staff and parents can help prevent bullying by following these guidelines:
- Maintain open and clear communication, especially when problems arise.
- Be involved in student activities.
- Treat all students equally.
- Be visible and approachable.
- Establish clear rules of conduct and enforce them consistently.
- Set a good example.
- Create a comfortable and positive learning environment.
- Recognize students for their talents and achievements.
Intervention is vital. When talking to a child about an incident, explain that “ratting”, “tattling” and “snitching” are negative words sometimes used to discourage kids from reporting. It takes courage to report. Reporting helps keep everyone safe.
Work with the School
Whether a child is the victim, a bystander or a bully, do the following to achieve a positive resolution:
- Contact the appropriate school staff member and report the situation. In most cases:
- Contact the teacher if the problem occurs in an area supervised by the teacher, such as in the classroom or gym change room.
- Contact the principal if the problem occurs on the playground, in the hallway, at lockers, at the bus stop, during extracurricular school activities, on the way to or from school, or if the problem persists in the classroom after you have alerted the teacher.
- Contact the school district office if the problem continues after you contact the principal.
- In working toward a positive resolution, discuss the following:
- Who will look into the complaint, and when?
- When will that person get back to you and what information can you expect?
- How will the school keep your child safe while the problem is being investigated (for example, supervision of the alleged bully)?
- How will your child’s identity and privacy be protected to prevent retaliation?
- What services are available in the school (or school district) should your child need emotional or psychological support?
When advocating for your child, it’s reasonable for you to ask how and when the people in positions of responsibility are going to take action. For more information, read one of the following guides:
Call it Safe – A Parent Guide for Dealing with Bullying in Elementary Schools
- Call it Safe: A parent guide for dealing with bullying in elementary schools (PDF)
- Vers une école plus sûre Guide à l’intention des parents : Comment réagir à l’intimidation dans les écoles élémentaires (PDF)
- 안전한 학교환경 초등학교 학생의 부모님들을 위한 불링 학교폭력 대처방안 (PDF)
- Call it Safe: A parent guide for dealing with bullying in elementary schools in Punjabi (PDF)
- 安全至上 应对小学校园欺凌现象 家长手册 (PDF)
- 安全至上 應對小學校園欺凌現象 家長手冊 (PDF)
Call it Safe – A Parent Guide for Dealing with Harassment and Intimidation in Secondary Schools
- Call it Safe: A parent guide for dealing with harassment and intimidation in secondary schools (PDF)
- Vers une école plus sûre : Guide à l’intention des parents : Comment réagir au harcèlement et à l’intimidation dans les écoles secondaires (PDF)
- 안전한 학교환경 세컨데리 스쿨 학생의 부모님들을 위한 학교폭력 대처방안 (PDF)
- Call it Safe: A parent guide for dealing with harassment and intimidation in secondary schools in Punjabi (PDF)
- 安全至上 应对中学校园骚扰与恐吓现象 家长手册 (PDF, 1.09MB)
- 安全至上 應對中學校園騷擾與恐嚇現象 家長手冊 (PDF, 1.09MB)